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Friday, July 18, 2008

Letter to a "friend"

Dear "friend" from high school,

I hate to tell you this, I know you won't take it well. We were friends in high school, in high school we made plans to be in each others wedding, to raise our children together, for our husbands to be best friends. However, we graduated over eight years ago, my life has changed, your life has not, I'm sad for you, that you will never strive for more, that you are content barely making ends meet every month. However, I'm not content living that life style, I want better for myself, my husband and my children, I'm going to get my degree and be a better mom and wife because of it.
The world doesn't revolve around you, neither does it revolve around me. You see, God is the center of the universe. The world revolves around HIM, not any one human, you know that, you've been following God for many years. When you were getting married, your wedding was not all we thought about, dreamed about and spoke about. We had lives outside of you. And ALL four of us were pushed to our breaking point during the weekend before your wedding.
Don't think that when we aren't feeling good, or we're having a bad day that we wanna hear about your stomach issues, or the fight you had with your husband. We don't wanna hear about how Plato's closet won't take your stupid shoes in the midst of our friend's tears while she is filing for divorce. We don't care that you need to order lunch, or what your coworkers had for lunch. We don't care that we said LAST YEAR that we'd go somewhere with you, and now the weekends are too booked to do so.
Think about what I said, and take some time to think it over before you react. Otherwise your best friend, and my good friend, is going to walk away again, this time forever. There's only so much more she can take before she'll say something you'll regret. You tend to push and push people until they can't handle being with you anymore. Your emails are full of "me me me" instead of asking about the other person, or even caring what the other person says when they actually have something to say something. You have a lot to learn about life, or your going to end up alone.

Sincerely,

Your FORMER friend from high school

8 comments:

Kira said...

I was paranoid in the first two sentences...but the third sentence and beyond convinced me you weren't talking about me!

~Phew!~

When are we going to get together and catch up?

Suzie said...

hope things work out!! Love ya girly!!

Melissa said...

NO WAY would I ever talk about you like that Kira! I love you tons :-D Definitely no ill feelings here. you've always been a wonderful friend!

Jim was talking about Hiroshima last night and got mad at me for laughing for about 10 minutes.

ahh. good times :-D

Connie said...

Wow ~ sounds like someone needs a good book, sangria and great music without this former friend!
Thanks for stopping by my blog today!

Unknown said...

Those are always the friends that you're never really sure why they're still around. Hope it's better! Happy POW!

Anonymous said...

Some people are toxic and it takes too much effort to be friends with people like that. I stopped making an effort years ago. Now, I simply, effortlessly, enjoy the time I spend with my TRUE friends.

McMommy said...

I think you are better off without her!! :)

Happy pow!

Unknown said...

I think we all know someone like that!

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