Why?

A friend asked me the other day why Jim and I decided to be so open with our journey of infertility/miscarriage. I'm sure some of you are wondering the same thing...the answer is simple. Because its a real medical issue, because the pain if it is so deep that no one can fully fathom it..unless they are going through it. But mostly, because 1 in 6 couples struggle with starting a family.


I don't share our journey so anyone feels bad for us. I don't share it so that anyone feels bad telling us they're expecting (I promise I will rejoice with you in your amazing news). I don't share so I can hear your advice ("it'll happen when its meant to happen" doesn't really help. But "I'm praying for you" does).

I share to help my friends who are struggling with the same journey. I share because I'm not ashamed that Jim and I are struggling right now. I share because chances are you know more than one couple struggling with infertility. I share because I am strong enough to endure the ridicule, the hurtful comments, the ending of friendships over hurtful words. I share because some days I need a little extra encouragement through the tears.

But, mostly, I share because I have amazing friends and family loving us, and praying for us on a regular basis. Your prayers are felt more than you know.

Check out this video I saw a while back. It really explains a lot about the infertility journey.

http://www.tearsandhope.com/emptyarms_video.html